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Ask Amy: Memorial service brings on acute anxiety

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: My mother-in-law passed away last month.

I had asked my wife if she would be willing to delay her mother’s memorial service for three or four months until COVID recedes, but she and her siblings have decided to proceed with a memorial service next month.

My wife's Mom lived 2,000 miles away from us, so we would need to fly to the memorial service.

There will be a church service and a meal afterward, where people will share their stories.

The meal will be either outside or in a banquet room (depending on the weather).

Many of the attendees have been vaccinated for COVID.


I am 64 years old and have been vaccinated.

I have a few health issues, which are not currently on the list of high-risk factors.

I would prefer not to attend, and I get anxious when I think about flying and being in a group setting.

I would like to visit her home with my wife sometime next year and pay my respects then.


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