Ask Amy: Baby shower brings on infantile behavior
Dear Amy: My son and daughter-in-law are expecting their first baby.
The plans for a baby shower have been in the works for months, with an outside venue, food, desserts, decor, etc.
Everything was paid in advance by myself and my daughter-in-law’s mother, “Bertie.”
The night before the baby shower, Bertie tested positive for COVID-19 and had symptoms.
Bertie and my daughter-in-law wanted to reschedule the shower, and from text messages it is obvious that Bertie definitely laid on a heavy guilt trip, saying: "Sandra doesn't want to be there without her Mom, Dad and Grandma." (Grandma also came down with COVID.)
After much thought, we decided to carry on and have the shower.
My son and daughter-in-law boycotted the shower.
The excuse was "they felt they weren't welcome.”
I later told my son this was a cop-out.
We offered to FaceTime with them. I even called to see if they wanted to come after everyone left to see their gifts on display.