Ask Amy: Attack victim wants to warn others
However, the sibling relationship is vastly different from an intimate partner relationship. These sisters have never dated him (one hopes). They don’t have the option of not being related to him. He might be as menacing toward them as he was toward you. Or they might have believed that he had changed during his relationship with you.
You don’t harbor conflicted feelings or beliefs about him — as his sisters might.
You have direct knowledge of how dangerous he is, and you have access to his arrest record and restraining order to prove it.
Yes, if you become aware that he is dating someone, you should warn her. Understand that anything you commit to writing (on Facebook messenger, for instance) can be shared, so be cautious. Your warning could save another woman from harm.
Dear Amy: Through a DNA website, I recently connected with a daughter I gave up for adoption 40 years ago.
This connection has been a lovely experience, and we both look forward to many more years spent getting to know each other.
My husband and I have two grown daughters who have met this woman and her family, and everyone gets along.
The adopted daughter is very successful professionally and financially. Our two daughters are solidly middle class, as are we.
Our dilemma is: How shall we divvy up our assets in our will?
Should we discuss this with them?
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