Ask Amy: Attack victim wants to warn others
Advice, please!
– Struggling in Sacramento
Dear Struggling: It is truly inspiring to learn of a successful and peaceful family-building experience of the sort you are experiencing. Credit goes to all of you, including your adopted child’s parents, who seem to have raised a successful and well-adjusted person.
I’m amazed at how often I receive questions about how to divide assets, when the answer is always: However you want! It is wisest to discuss this with an experienced and qualified estate planning attorney who can advise you about the inheritance laws where you live.
You could make one choice now and then later change your minds and go through the process of amending your wills to reflect the change.
I am, however, of the definite opinion that you should not discuss this with your daughters during the planning phase. At this point, even though the decision will ultimately have an impact on them, your decision-making process is none of their business.
Dear Amy: “Anxious in Georgia” had a husband who was trying to gaslight her into a threesome (or his cheating) with her friend.
This made me chuckle, recalling a similar incident with a friend of mine.
The husband wanted a threesome with another woman, so my friend was recruited.
Very quickly though, the two women fell in love with each other, became a couple, and the husband was left alone.
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