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Ask Amy: Handsy hubby should revise technique

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

When the all-clear comes, make eye contact with your father-in-law and say something like, “Let me offer my cheek for a hello kiss. Let’s go cheek-to-cheek from now on.”

Dear Amy: You have referred to Mindfulness as a way of changing behaviors.

When my clients seek to stop angry or snarky comments, I advise them to “breathe out before you breathe in” before saying something angry or hurtful. The breath out, which takes half a second, creates a tiny moat of calm between intent and action, allowing judgment to catch up.

– Chris

Dear Chris: “A tiny moat of calm.” I love it.



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