Ask Amy: Angry letter may provoke unintended response
Perhaps he rarely helps at home, and you believe that he only jumps up when others are there to see and appreciate him?
Regardless of your own motivations or reactions, it is not your job to police your husband. And unless there is a more aggressive action and reaction than you describe, I would imagine that some people would actually feel relieved and grateful if someone else jumped up and took over a task.
Dear Amy: “Concerned” wrote to you regarding receiving an annual gift of a fruitcake made by their friend, who had been very sick with COVID previously.
You blew it by not telling them that there is no risk of contracting COVID from food. You should not continue to perpetuate these myths.
— Disappointed
Dear Disappointed: Yes, I should have emphasized that there is no risk of contracting the virus from consuming food or receiving packages.
I made the error of believing that this was common knowledge, though it was obvious that “Concerned” was worried about it.
Thank you for prompting this response.
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