Ask Amy: Woman wants to get out of her own way
Dear Amy: I recently received some news, and went to tell my husband.
I didn’t realize that I was interrupting a work issue, and he snapped and said, “You don’t have to tell me everything, and ask so many questions.”
Later that day, my boss had an hour-long talk with me about how I’m not enough of a team player.
My husband later apologized (it’s incredibly rare for him to show frustration like that), but now I can’t get that day of my head.
I’ve always been a chatty, outgoing person. I’ve been raised to ask questions if I don’t know the answers. I’m enthusiastic and when I show an interest in something, I love hearing what people have to say.
I can’t stop thinking that I’ve actually just been annoying people my whole life, and that my co-workers, who I thought I got along with, may find me hard to work with.
We have just started a fertility journey, which has me worried. My mom has had some health concerns, and I’ve been helping her out.
Plus, the pandemic. I know there are real stressors out there.
But that one day has me thinking that just being ME is wrong, that I’m annoying, and that I need to fundamentally change.
How can I get out of my own head?
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