Ask Amy: Sister needs support to leave abusive marriage
Leaving an abusive relationship is also often a very dangerous flashpoint.
Don’t lecture your sister, or issue ultimatums. Tell her, “I love you, I’m worried that you are losing yourself, and I am here to help you and the kids whenever you need it. I’m on your side forever, and I’m not leaving.” Do not focus too much on her husband and his behavior (she may become defensive) but keep the focus consistently on her.
Dear Amy: I believe I’m in love with a man who enjoys having sex with both men and women.
He says I'm enough for him, and that he wants to get married, eventually.
I keep catching him sneaking and hiding his phone.
I wonder if I should walk away and stop waiting for him. We’ve been together for over two years, and he said he loves me — but I wonder if it's worth it.
— Wondering
Dear Wondering: Sneaking and hiding a cellphone is a pretty obvious indication that your guy is, well, sneaking and hiding something.
You could start by asking him what is on his phone that he doesn’t want you to see.
Regarding you and your feelings, you’ve probably heard the expression: “The heart wants what it wants.” There is no question about that.
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