Ask Amy: Sister needs support to leave abusive marriage
However, after over two years in a relationship, you need to consider the impact of another organ: your brain.
You probably know by now that your guy isn’t a good bet for marriage. At this point, you need to decide on and time your departure. Now or later – it’s up to you.
Dear Amy: Thank you for your thoughtful reply to “Upset Wife,” who felt her husband should stop calling his siblings until they reciprocated.
I would add that it is not her (or her husband’s) job to make them better siblings.
It is his job to be the best brother he can be, and it seems he is succeeding in this.
Peace of mind and heart came for me when I accepted the fact that if people COULD do better, they WOULD do better. It was only important that I do the best I could, regardless of the action or inaction of others.
To paraphrase St. Francis: Seek to love rather than be loved, to understand rather than be understood, and to forgive rather than to be forgiven.
Amen!
— Grateful for No Regrets
Dear Grateful: The wisdom you’ve shared provides a key which I believe unlocks the door to healthier relationships, as well as true personal contentment.
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