Ask Amy: Hot Girl summer might end in a fall
Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I (both 23) have been dating for the past nine months. He does not want to get married and have kids later on -- while I do. We both knew our stances on marriage and kids from the start, but because I was in the middle of my Hot Girl Summer when we met, I was totally fine with just casually dating.
I truly think the legal benefits of marriage are very important. For example, visiting someone in the hospital when only family members are allowed.
Honestly, if not for that benefit I wouldn't care about getting married. A man who is committed to me and our happiness is all I would want.
His parents have been divorced since he was an adolescent, and he fears he'll get stuck in a loveless marriage or end up losing half his money and the kids in a divorce.
We both agreed to just not think about the future.
Lately it's been harder not to think about the expiration date for our relationship.
We are so compatible in every single way (except for marriage). I do not want to prematurely end the relationship over this. I just want to be able to enjoy the love we have, appreciate my boyfriend, and truly give it my all before our inevitable end. I’d also like to avoid being absolutely destroyed when that time comes. Any advice?
In Love
Dear In Love: I have great news for you: If you and your boyfriend designate one another to be a health care proxy, you won’t have to worry about being married in case of a hospitalization.
So – problem solved!
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