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Ask Amy: Couple argues over emotional affair

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: My marriage of nearly 40 years has been crumbling for a couple of years now, primarily due to my frustration with my husband's negative attitude toward life. (I tend to be joyful.)

Now that we are both retired and home, it has hit the proverbial fan.

“Barney” is on his phone a lot. He keeps it glued to his side. I wondered what he was up to, so I checked our phone bill (not his phone) and discovered he has been texting a woman he knew from high school at least 350 times a month, sometimes over 30 times a day for the last two years.

I think this has a lot to do with our problems. I confronted him and he popped a cork, furious that I checked the phone bill for his text usage.

He says I’ve "broken his trust." I told him this is indicative of an emotional affair, and he swears that since they don't talk about anything sexual, I am wrong.

All this time I’ve been wondering why he doesn't talk to me (and blames me for not talking to him), and he is texting this woman.

 

Can this be an emotional affair if they only talk about their day-to-day activities? I say yes, he says no. I welcome your opinion. He reads your column daily.

Untexted in Texas

Dear Untexted: Perhaps you have a friend that you text dozens of times a day, but I doubt it.

If you did have a friend that you texted continuously for two years (while at the same time not communicating with your husband), he would very rightly wonder what in the Sam Hill was going on.

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