Ask Amy: Couple argues over emotional affair
What should I do?
Busted
Dear Busted: Here’s what you shouldn’t do: Lay down a lot of specific expectations and demands. Why? Because if the IRS doesn’t faze “Thomas,” you certainly won’t.
If he owes a previous landlord a substantial sum, why would you even consider becoming his landlord? He has a history of running up debt and bailing.
Don’t get tied up financially with this very bad bet. You and your fianceé are moving into a new home. This is the ideal time to say, “We’re moving -- but Thomas, you’re not.”
Yes, your future stepdaughter (and possibly her mother) will likely pressure you. But cohabiting with this guy will ultimately be worse for your relationship (with him, and with each other) than delivering the tough love now.
Dear Amy: I want to echo others who have pointed out why liquor stores are considered “essential” businesses.
Anyone who lives with an alcoholic knows that sudden withdrawal is a nightmare and potentially dangerous.
Been There, Recovered
Dear Recovered: Thank you so much for emphasizing this point. I’m sorry I missed it when I responded to this query.
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