Ask Amy: 'Shefault' parent wants to rebalance home life
My story is not unique.
-- Bullied
Dear Bullied: Abusers sometimes use the "apology" mechanism to reoffend. It sounds as if in this case the person who bullied you was mainly seeking to alleviate his own guilt.
There is a way to acknowledge and apologize without triggering past hurt. True humility and tenderness is called for.
Dear Amy: Thank you, for your response to "Bad Friend," whose bestie had twin babies and seemed to complain a lot about it.
You were so right to point out how overwhelming the twin experience can be. And, like you, I wondered if this new mom was suffering from postpartum depression.
-- Mom of Twins
Dear Mom: This new mother deserves tons of TLC, help with her babies, and -- a better friend.
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