Wronged wife doesn't want to beg ex for contact
Surely you shouldn't have to bear this indignity, and then clean up after him!
And yet -- you should. Because that's what good parents do. Your sons already have one crappy parent; you get to be the good one.
I'm assuming that your children either wholeheartedly want to have contact with their father, or are at the very least conflicted about him. You should encourage them to talk about how they feel, without fear that they might trigger an angry reaction from you, or feel that they, too, are betraying you.
You and your children deserve better, and yet this is what you got. They've had no part in their father's betrayal, but they are paying the price.
Yes, you should do what you can to pave the way toward contact. I'm not suggesting that you beg, but that you make sure their father understands that the kids miss him and would like to have contact with him.
Dear Amy: My husband and I have a 50-year-old son who is married with three beautiful children. We all live in the same town.
Four years ago, when I had breast cancer, my daughter-in-law became angry and would not let us see the children.
We have tried everything we can think of to work this out: Letters, phone calls, and offers to seek professional help.
They continue to want to blame us, but neglect to tell us what the problem is!
They have verbally (and by text) said the nastiest things to us.