Co-worker ponders being terrible about race
Thinking is one thing -- nobody can police your thoughts. But yes, speculating on the race or DNA parentage of a baby you've met exactly once is at the very least terrible-adjacent. I hope you'll keep your thoughts to yourself.
I know African Americans who are fair skinned and freckled. I have biracial family members who are dark skinned, while their siblings are fair.
Your co-worker might be white, but her son might be biracial (you don't mention his race).
Your Caribbean heritage or racial identity does not make you an arbiter of how other people identify.
In short, stop. This is absolutely none of your business.
Dear Amy: What are our obligations to friends on social media?
I have a friend from college (30-plus years ago). We were briefly roommates one summer and in a social circle together. I haven't seen him since college. He's halfway across the country now.
He's a kind soul with mental health issues, and was recently divorced. There are consistent cries for help on social media, with friends (old and new) recommending social services, creative living arrangements, etc.
I've provided some financial support (I am financially comfortable) and a few ideas for social services, but I know that some of those services take time to put into place.
I talked to another friend recently who said they had a similar experience seeing friends in need across the country on social media.
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