Would-be mother suffers through baby news
Dear Amy: All my life, I have wanted to be a mother -- more than anything else. Two years ago, I learned that the only way would be through IVF. I was devastated, but still hopeful.
My sister-in-law confided in me that she and her husband were struggling to become pregnant. I, in turn, opened up to her about my own infertility.
Last year on Father's Day I was invited to a gathering at their home.
They surprised everyone with the news that they were expecting.
I felt like I had been gut-punched, but managed a smile and congratulations, and left very quickly after the announcement.
I was inconsolable at home. I felt completely shattered.
I didn't understand my feelings. Why was I so tormented by someone's good news? I felt angry at them for not allowing me to deal with it in private.
I expect they shared my misfortunes with everyone else, and that made things even worse.
Fast-forward to today. It has been a year. Their child was born, and I have had two failed embryo transfers through IVF. I have not seen or spoken to them.
I am still hurting and angry. I don't know what to do to make the pain and animosity stop. Help.