Housemates worry about friend's new mate
Dear Amy: I am part of a group of friends who all share a house together.
We've all been close friends for five years now.
One of our friends started a new relationship about five weeks ago. Since then, they have not spent a single day or night apart from each other.
Sometimes they're at our house; sometimes they're at his partner's house.
Our friend never does anything without him anymore, including spending time with us.
We want to spend more time with our friend alone, and we are also concerned that he's moving too quickly.
How do we tell our friend we want to spend more time with just him? Is it our place to tell him that we think he might be moving too fast?
-- Concerned Friends
Dear Concerned: I think it's natural for two people who perhaps romantically/sexually collide to then stick together -- certainly at the beginning of an intimate relationship. This is not the most prudent way to behave, but ... prudence sometimes goes out the window when the flame burns hot.
You don't say that your friend is unhappy; you don't note any real red flags about this new relationship and you don't mention that you have a negative reaction to your friend's new guy.
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