Wife doesn't want husband to say it with flowers
After two years in recovery, he knows that the holiday season presents lots of triggers and challenges to his sobriety. Invite him and say, "We'll be offering lots of nonalcoholic beverages, but we are also planning to serve beer and wine. I just want to make sure you're comfortable with that, and of course we understand if you decide you can't make it."
Dear Amy: I have a suggested comeback for "Not So Fat," the guy whose elderly mother fat shamed him.
The next time she does this, he should say, "Mom, why are you shrinking? Your skin is so wrinkled and your hair is thinning!"
She would probably say, "That's just the way I am, and don't make fun of me for growing older." And he could say, "Well, this is the way I am."
-- Been There
Dear Been There: It's worth a try. Thank you.
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