Ex-boyfriend becomes current-colleague
Dear Upset: How strange -- that the lying, selfish guy you broke up with three years ago isn't behaving the way you want him to now.
Given that you have no contact, he does not owe you a heads-up about his employment, however (I'm assuming that neither of you supervises the other).
Behave professionally and cordially if you encounter him. Otherwise, ignore him. If you don't want to have coffee, don't; you don't need to explain yourself. Tell your current boyfriend that "Kiernan" is working at your company. Keeping this a secret only ups the ante.
Dear Amy: How do I tell my cheap girlfriend that she needs to pitch in? We've been dating for over a year. On the rare occasions she takes me out, I have to pay for at least part of it. She's even gone as far as saying that she's taking me out, but then (miraculously) I end up paying!
For example, she recently "treated" me to a "free" comedy show. I ended up buying dinner for both of us.
One show she took me to cost me $120 in souvenirs and booze.
If she buys dinner, I pay tax and tip. When I take her out, I end up paying for everything -- ticket costs, dinner, transportation.
Her cost of living is much higher than mine, so I always used this as an excuse, but I recently lost my job, and she has managed to pay for two solo vacations this year.
Do I speak up when the bill comes? Before we go out? Sit down now and have a serious talk?
I just don't know how to address this without coming off as resentful.
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