Friend wants her bestie to give up the ghost
I foresee boundary-crossing regarding childrearing becoming an issue in the future, if not addressed directly now.
-- Furious First-Time Mom
Dear Furious: This does not require a response from you. Your folks had their say. Other than a brief: "message received," you will, of course, rethink any intimate information you are asked to share with them in the future.
If they choose to bring this up again, you should tell them, "Mom, Dad; I love you. You are interfering with our choices as parents. Please don't do this again." There is a high likelihood that you will face this interference in the future; training yourselves and your parents should start now. It will be ongoing.
Dear Amy: "Frugal Older Sister" wondered if she could/should purchase a dryer for her financially irresponsible younger sister.
I, too, have a younger sister who struggles financially while my husband and I enjoy a well-funded retirement. My solution would be to tell my sister that I'm buying a new dryer, and she is welcome to my (not very) old one. It's an ego-free win-win for both parties.
-- Sister Susan
Dear Susan: I like this. Thank you.
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