Woman wants to donate shoes, along with extra judgment
He is in a better financial situation than I am. We split expenses for the most part, but I will often bring home dinner (for which I pay).
When we go out, he normally pays, but I often offer. Sometimes he lets me pay if I insist. When we travel, we split gas costs and eat at MacDonald's (for which he pays).
Recently, we were having dinner with a friend of mine. When the check came, my friend was estimating her share of the bill. He looked at me and said, "Where's your share?"
I did not know what to say since he would normally pay my share, so I laughed along with both of them.
Money is a very personal topic to me. My late husband would have never embarrassed me in front of a friend.
We frequently went to nice restaurants, and he would plan fun things for us to do. I also have friends in relationships who go on expensive trips and eat out at nice restaurants.
I do not want an extravagant lifestyle. However, I would like to do more than we are doing, but I do not know how to bring this up with him.
Am I being petty? Am I making too much out of what happened at dinner? I feel disrespected.
-- Wondering
Dear Wondering: Three of you went to dinner. Your friend estimated the amount she owed. Your guy was likely trying to make a "joke" to cover the fact that he was not picking up the check for your friend.
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