Reunion brings on fantasy and possible forgiveness
Dear Amy: My 45th college reunion is coming up.
I met "Jill" in our freshman year. We became friends immediately. We had a common interest in sports; I was on the baseball and basketball teams, and she was a cheerleader who possessed superb athletic ability.
We had a great platonic relationship and we were heading toward the next phase. But me, being the naive, inexperienced 20-year-old that I was, did not behave properly.
Our last time together, decades ago, was spent with other friends and turned out to be a disaster. Suffice it to say, I unintentionally disrespected Jill that evening.
By the end of the evening, I saw that Jill was pretty upset with me, and she gave me the iciest look that I have ever seen. I knew at that moment that I was out of her life forever; which I deserved.
She is married, and I am also married, and I do not want to cause any problems for Jill if I see her.
I have felt guilt and shame for my insensitive behavior for nearly 45 years, and feel that I owe her an apology.
I ruined a "fairy tale" relationship, and lost the most beautiful woman in Texas.
If I see her, should I apologize to her (if she will even speak to me), or should I keep the conversation general and cordial?