ArcaMax

How unfortunate for your children, that they have a father who conveys such open disrespect toward their mother. And how unfortunate for whatever puppy your husband might acquire, which will be brought into the household of an irresponsible owner, and a resentful spouse. I can't imagine a reputable shelter which would adopt a dog to your husband, but there are many ways to acquire a puppy, and it would be quite easy for your husband to follow through on his threat.

You should talk to your family as a group. Tell them, calmly, "I know you want a puppy, but I don't. Because I am home and would be expected to provide a majority of the dog's care, day in and out, I believe that my wishes should prevail. There are many ways to spend time with a dog if you want to, including volunteering at the local shelter."

If, after this, your husband brings home a puppy, you should exercise your own freedom to travel. Tell the family that you are going away for a couple of weeks, giving them a chance to learn to take care of the new family member on their own and make a final decision about it. Ask your sons to decide which of them will forego after-school sports and weekend activities in order to take care of the dog. Perhaps they can trade off with your husband.

Obviously, this episode has revealed a relationship issue which you and your husband should address.

Dear Amy: I know that I have some obsessions and compulsions (maybe in moderation). Anyway, long after relationships have ended, I just always seem to have that person on my mind.

Now since Facebook has come into our lives, I will look at their page to see if they are dating, if they broke up, etc.

I waste a lot of my time doing this, and I can't seem to stop.

Any advice for me? And, why do you think I constantly do this?

I'm not trying to go back with these guys, and I know that we are over, but I don't stop obsessing!

-- Obsessed

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