Does shared custody require honest sharing?
Dear Upset: This "plus one" business is not your or your parents' problem; it is your sister's problem.
All the same, there are times when it makes sense to cave (or compromise). If your sister (not your parents) comes to you two with this dilemma, you should talk to her about it. There is a possibility that another guest will not be able to attend; if somebody backs out, you might be able to squeeze in her extra guest.
Dear Amy: "Forgotten on the Fourth Floor" was upset that none of her hospital co-workers visited her after her knee replacement surgery.
I've worked in hospitals for 30 years.
There are very real concerns regarding patient privacy.
My rule of thumb is, if I am close enough with the co-worker that I would drive across town to visit them in the hospital, then I will go to see them in this hospital. Otherwise, I stay away and send a card.
-- Experienced
Dear Experienced: Thank you.
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