Gratitude Is Key To Happy Life
Q: Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. Do you have any suggestions for emphasizing that it's more than just food, football, shopping and days off from school?
Jim: One of the key secrets to a happy life is gratitude. I'm not talking about brief moments (or days) here and there where we casually acknowledge the good things in life. It's actively living every day filled with gratitude.
Being grateful isn't just an emotion we feel -- it's a deliberate choice of perspective. Given the challenges we all face in life, we might have to search for reasons to be grateful. Maybe we're having trouble at work; we can still be thankful we have a job. Or maybe our child is making poor decisions. Amidst the disappointment, we can be grateful they're safe and healthy at that moment.
Gratitude isn't just thankfulness when everything is going right. After all, life is seldom like that. Instead, gratitude is understanding that we live in a broken world, yet choosing to be thankful anyway.
Doing that requires intentionally looking for the goodness around us. The smallest blessings can be the hardest to notice. But they're also the things that give our lives richness and meaning.
The Thanksgiving holiday is a great occasion to begin that practice. Many families go around the table and share what everyone is grateful for. In my household, we carry that tradition on throughout the year because we believe it's important to do. With kids, I'd strongly recommend emphasizing relational blessings over material possessions.
Life will always confront us with challenges. Those hardships can sometimes drain our gratitude. But making it a daily habit to pause and reflect helps us remember how much we have to be thankful for.
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