Ask Amy: Trust issues interfere with married roommates
If you do want to stay together, then you both need to commit wholeheartedly to complete emotional and material transparency regarding your behavior as individuals and as a couple.
Fear of being alone is the worst reason to stay in a marriage.
Dear Amy: I retired at 62 and consider the ability to do so a blessing.
In the lead up to this momentous event, I alerted family and friends of my decision, which yielded a barrage of unsolicited warnings that my body would wither, and my brain turn to an inoperative mush.
Now that I am retired and living in a new community, I am questioned incessantly by apparently well-meaning people about what I do all day, as if enjoying my leisure is a crime.
In fact, I am researching my genealogy, reading, investing, catching up remotely on long-neglected relationships, and enjoying the life I worked 40 years to afford.
In truth, I don’t need to explain myself to anyone, but apparently some justification is expected.
Have you any insights on how to approach these invasive comments?
– Life Is Good
Dear Life is Good: It’s possible that people are asking you how you spend your time, not to accuse you of the crime of enjoying your leisure (how dare you!), but because they’re genuinely curious.
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