Ask Amy: Successful sister ponders her family obligation
I believe for many people, experiencing the personal and social dislocation of the pandemic has had a lingering aftereffect of a sort of free-floating anxiety about leaving home.
While it is extremely important for you to listen to your own instincts, it is also helpful to occasionally push through; sometimes showing up (even when you’re unsure) can lead to positive experiences.
If you do decide to decline — keep it simple. Just say, “I think this sounds like a really fun time. Thank you for putting it together. Unfortunately, I won’t be able to make it this year, but I hope everyone has a great time.”
Dear Amy: “Confused” was disenchanted with her marriage and contemplating a move with her minor daughter and retiring on “her” pension.
In your response, you forgot to issue your usual sage advice to consult a lawyer.
She might be shocked to discover that her pension may be considered a marital asset, divisible in a divorce.
— Concerned Reader
Dear Reader: Absolutely! Thank you.
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