Ask Amy: Successful sister ponders her family obligation
You should contact your sister’s daughter to ask for her perspective regarding her mother’s needs.
I think it’s likely that this unkind and needy woman raised a daughter who is extremely careful with her own boundaries, and she would likely advise you to do the same.
Dear Amy: Some relatives (who do not usually gather, except for reunions) are getting together for an almost weeklong time together.
Everyone has to fly to get there. A big house will be rented for the vacation.
I had originally wanted to go but, upon thinking and pondering this, it does not feel comfortable to me in my present state of mind.
I’m not sure why, but that’s how I feel.
The dates are in place, but nothing else has been decided.
How can I gently decline when I originally thought this a good/fun idea?
— Reluctant Traveler
Dear Reluctant: Before declining altogether, you should do your best to sort out your feelings.
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