Ask Amy: A woman with wheels wants to pay for travel
I’ve met someone who hasn’t been alone as long as I have. I met him in the major corridor of our complex. I put on my best smile and introduced myself. He is ruggedly handsome, walks with a confident swagger, and has a great and engaging personality.
I wondered why he didn’t seem to be attached to any of the attractive women who live here. He is popular with men and women, and I know there are other ladies here who would like his attention.
We have become close. We share many common interests. He is loving, tender, and considerate of my feelings and needs.
My problem is that I’ve fallen in love with him, however, I don’t want to be hurt if he doesn’t totally feel the way I do.
I’m afraid I might lose him! I’m afraid of being hurt.
I’d like your advice on whether I should break this off and take my emotional lumps now or stay and keep him happy.
– Senior Single
Dear Senior: My understanding about some retirement communities is that they can be hotbeds of … hot beds.
Your experience of meeting your guy in the hallway and perhaps being in competition with other women reminds me that attraction will always – to varying degrees – pull any of us right back to high school.
And, just like affairs earlier in your life, the feeling of love and attraction leads to extreme vulnerability.
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