Ask Amy: A parent is haunted by her folks’ creepy friend
While I am prepared to send $1,000 like we gave to a niece on my wife’s side, my wife disagrees because we were invited to and attended her niece’s wedding.
Should I contact my nephew or his dad, my oldest brother?
I am inclined to just let it go and send the gift, but what’s your take?
– Disappointed
Dear Disappointed: I think you jumped the gun when you responded to this engagement by assuming they’d be having a wedding and that you would be invited.
I suggest reaching out to your nephew and saying, “I don’t want to pressure you, but I’m just trying to clarify whether we’ve been invited to your wedding?”
This is extremely awkward, but keep in mind that when it comes to weddings, the groom’s preferences are often outnumbered by the bride, her family, and his parents.
And yes – if you can afford to be this generous to all of your nephews and nieces, I think you should send a check.
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