Ask Amy: A parent is haunted by her folks’ creepy friend
If you see him and discern that he hasn’t changed, you should tell him, “You harassed me when I was younger and I didn’t say anything about it, but I’m letting you know that if this happens again – or if you say anything even slightly inappropriate to my kids – you’ll have to deal with me.”
Do not expect Roger to acknowledge his behavior or apologize to you. (He may not remember – or claim not to remember – due to his drinking.)
He may choose to bring this up to your folks. If so, you can let them know that you don’t want to burden them with this and have decided to handle it like the strong and capable adult they raised you to be.
Dear Amy: We learned that my long-divorced nephew was engaged to his girlfriend, whom we have not met.
In a congratulatory card we asked them to inform us when they set the date so we could book the flights.
A month ago, my nephew informed me they had decided to elope at some point.
I told him we would love to meet them for dinner on a trip we plan for later this year, and they agreed.
This month invitations were received by my many siblings for a summer wedding.
We did not receive one – and I doubt it was lost in the mail.
Knowing that I am not a favorite of my nephew’s mom (since her developing early dementia), it was not a surprise – except for his story about eloping.
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