Ask Amy: Trapped in a snowbank, wife wants out
What should I do now?
– Trapped Wife
Dear Trapped: Your husband’s “play fund” seems to apply only to him. There doesn’t seem to be much play in your life.
I assume that you have done your utmost to engage in the social life of your chilly home. Joining book groups, volunteering at the library, or getting a part-time job would help to keep you engaged and active.
You are unhappy. You are cold. Your health is at risk. You have not adjusted to life in this place.
For the remainder of this winter, you might spend time researching options. Do you have friends or family members living in more congenial locales? If so, you should look into alternatives for places to stay for at least the worst of the winter. You might be able to rent or share a room in an affordable area.
My overall point is that you obviously feel trapped, but perhaps you should not look to your husband for solutions.
Dear Amy: Some long-time friends and I hadn’t seen each other for years and recently got together for a few days to reconnect.
While at a restaurant for lunch, one friend discreetly picked up the tab.
Upon finding out the bill was taken care of, “Alice” vocally refused this kind gesture and asked the waitress, “Can you reverse the payment?”
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