Ask Amy: Trapped in a snowbank, wife wants out
I quietly said, “Alice, just say thank you. It’s the graceful thing to do.”
Alice got upset and loudly questioned: “Did you just tell me what to do?” – drawing the attention of the rest of our table.
She made a face at me, gave me “the hand,” and turned to the waitress, saying, “Don’t you just hate it when other people tell you what to do?”
The waitress stood there awkwardly. I said nothing, but it rattled me.
Now that we are all back home, I wanted to follow up with Alice and sort this out, but both my sister, my husband, and another friend who was there have all advised me to just let it be.
Unfortunately, I’m still dwelling on it.
During this awkward moment, did I behave inappropriately?
Perhaps I should have just said nothing and let it play out between Alice, the friend who paid the bill, and the waitress?
How might I better handle this type of situation, should it happen again?
– Lost my Lunch
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