Ask Amy: Friendship falters on unsolicited advice
Dear Amy: While on our daily walks, my partner and I sometimes encounter one of our casual acquaintances who soon starts to tell us about one of his friends, whom we do not know at all, in great detail.
We politely nod and smile, asking a harmless question or two, while waiting for the conversation to end.
We do not want to be rude, but how do we politely tell this person that we just don’t know who he is talking about?
– Clueless in Denver
Dear Clueless: If you broke into this monologue to say, “I’m sorry, but we don’t know that person,” your acquaintance would likely take the opportunity to explain, in detail, the stranger’s backstory.
Nodding, smiling, and demonstrating patience are all positive qualities. Think of it as compassion cardio, which can be good for your heart health.
If you’re on a walk and don’t want to be interrupted, you could respond, “It’s always nice to see you. We’re going to press on. Have a great morning!”
And then you ease on down the road.
Dear Amy: “Bereaved” was furious with her husband for posting an online “tribute” to her mother, including personal information.
You got it wrong. This information (including maiden name, etc.) can easily be used to steal a person’s identity.
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