Ask Amy: Divorced dad desires DNA disclosure
My question is, should I hold off telling my family about the engagement until everyone has had time to grieve the loss of my grandmother?
Would sharing the engagement overshadow the celebration of life we should be focusing on?
And if I wait, should I hide my ring in order to not bring any attention to it?
– Grief and Joy
Dear Grief and Joy: I’m so sorry you are experiencing this very tough loss.
I think you should tell your immediate family about your engagement now (if you haven’t, already).
Don’t make any sort of public announcement during or after your grandmother’s memorial, but don’t hide your ring, either.
If people ask about your ring, you should confirm your engagement and allow them to congratulate you. This happier news reminds everyone that good things continue to happen, even during otherwise tough times.
A couple of weeks after the funeral, you might announce your news to a wider circle, and on social media.
I hope it will provide some comfort to understand that your grandmother would have wanted you to experience joy and excitement.
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