Ask Amy: Prospective groomsman taken by surprise
But someday, we’re going to have to do something with them.
We welcome any suggestions you have.
– Drowning in Art
Dear Drowning: Before hosting a dignified burning party, I suggest that you at least try to find appreciative new homes for your paintings.
There are many online sites where you can put these pieces up for sale. You could check eBay and Etsy, and research other art-centered online sites.
Your grandmother’s work, especially, might attract attention because of the personal history of this accomplished woman. (You might also contact the art department at Oberlin to see if they have any interest in receiving a donated piece.)
Dear Amy: “Clean, Please!” was worried about cohabiting with her boyfriend in his extremely dirty apartment. I was with you until you suggested that he could pay his girlfriend to clean: “He (not you) could offer suggestions for how to address this (get his act together, hire a cleaner, or perhaps even compensate you for cleaning).”
No, no, no!
This would create a permanent dynamic where he doesn’t take responsibility for his mess, and she becomes his de facto maid.
There are plenty of possible solutions but that should not be one of them!
– I Disagree!
Dear Disagree!: I realize that this is an extremely unusual suggestion. I happen to know one (long-married) couple who have divergent standards about cleanliness.
The messier spouse compensates the cleaner spouse for the time spent keeping the house clean. I agree that this would not work for everyone.
========
(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)
©2022 Amy Dickinson. Distributed by Tribune Content Agency, LLC.
