Ask Amy: Prospective groomsman taken by surprise
Dear Amy: My wife’s sister “Georgia” and her fiancé “Jon” are getting married in March.
As the wedding is getting closer, their Save the Date cards were sent out with a wedding website listed on the card.
As my wife and I were looking through the website, I was taken aback by seeing my name listed as a groomsman. I have yet to be asked by the groom or bride to be part of their day.
I feel like I should not have to reach out to them, but now I also feel obligated to be part of their day.
Am I being petty?
– The Petty Groomsman
Dear Groomsman: Your internal reaction to this surprise doesn’t seem petty (to me), but even if your reaction is actually and objectively petty – so what?
I give you official permission to have a full-on petty-party. I’ll bring the cupcakes.
Once you’re done, I suggest that you react to this frankly and with good humor.
If you don’t want to assume this honor/obligation, you should definitely let the couple know – sooner rather than later.
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