Ask Amy: Sibling struggles can lead toward estrangement
Dear Amy: I have three children in their 30s.
My oldest son (no. 1) and my middle daughter have been very angry at each other for over a year.
In my opinion, my daughter is maybe 70 percent responsible and number one son is 30 percent responsible. Neither will admit any fault or apologize.
They don’t want to be in each other’s presence.
Nothing my wife or I do helps.
Son no. 1 and his wife will be having their first baby in four months, and so far, he is saying that we can’t tell our daughter.
We host birthdays and holidays at our house. I say invite them all and if they don’t want to come, so be it.
Son no. 2 (who is not involved in this drama) is having a birthday, which we will celebrate at our home.
Son no. 1 won’t come because our daughter is attending, but wants to host a later event for Son no. 2 (daughter won’t be invited).
It looks like something similar is being proposed for Christmas.
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