Ask Amy: A couple struggles to describe their meet-cute
Talking honestly is the most intimate act adults can engage in. Because of this, the prospect of having a deep, searching and honest conversation can be frightening.
I do think it is possible to be in a happy and fulfilled relationship without having sex, but this is not what you want. It is vital that you recognize the importance of your own needs and desires, and to convey them honestly.
The way to have a tough conversation is to commit to it, and then to do your best to communicate clearly.
I think it helps to set aside time, and to start by stating: “This is hard for me to talk about, so please bear with me.”
Aside from discussing the various possibilities for a relationship, if you two decide to move forward, you and he should receive accurate medical information from a physician.
I think you should also prepare yourself for the possibility that your friend might prefer to keep your friendship exactly where it is.
Dear Amy: Thank you for standing up for kids! The question from “J in NY” made me wince. This was an uncle who was offended when his 3-year-old nephew refused to hug him, and the parents didn’t make the child.
When children are taught that they have the right to say NO to unwanted touching, this protects them later.
– Been There, Said No
Dear Been There: I’ve received many responses to this question, all agreeing that children have the right to their own body autonomy, and parents should protect this right.
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