Ask Amy: Neighbors fret about divisive flag
We are working on our marriage, and things appear to be getting much better.
When it first happened, he turned to his friends pretty upset and had the majority of them block me, etc.
His best friend doesn’t speak to me much anymore, but I did reach out letting him know that I do love him and his girlfriend and don’t want to lose them and hope they don’t hate me.
He responded, stating that he isn’t making any judgment calls until he gives it time to see how my husband is feeling.
When it comes time for me to see them (they all live out of state), do you have any advice to not feel uncomfortable, awkward or scared?
I’m afraid they will hate me and will just be glaring at me with hatred the whole time.
– Nervous
Dear Nervous: Your husband’s best friend responded to you honestly and responsibly. You also handled that encounter well.
Aside from that, it’s important for both you and your husband to convey that you are repairing your relationship, but that otherwise – the inner workings of your marriage will remain private.
Dear Amy: “Had Enough” wrote to you about her daughter, whose high school friends rejected her, leading to her dropping out of school.
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