Ask Amy: Mom and grandmother both play favorites
While he is not at death's door, I know that I will be the person in charge of making his end-of-life arrangements when the time comes.
Given the fact that my sister has been estranged from both parents for three years and no longer communicates with me and my family, what, if any, are my obligations to inform her of my parents’ passing when the time ultimately arrives?
– Hurt and Confused
Dear Hurt: In the event of your parents’ death, you are obligated to inform your sister. You are not obligated beyond that, nor are you responsible for her behavior or choices.
I state that in my sincere belief that you would regret it if you didn’t.
Dear Amy: “Wife Looking for Answers” was terrified by her husband’s reckless driving. We faced this, too. Our solution came from our insurance company. We installed a “Drive Safe and Save” device and have an app on our phones.
It monitors your speed, acceleration, cornering, braking and phone distraction. Tracking the data became a game.
When our insurance rates dropped from good driving, we were both happy!
– Safe Solution
Dear Safe: Several readers suggested this. “Gamifying” safe driving seems to work.
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