Ask Amy: Officiant feels demoted from being a groomsman
When I tell her that I don't feel comfortable with this she says they have been friends for a couple of years, and that there is nothing romantic going on between them.
While that may be true for now, I can't help but feel that eventually this will evolve into a romantic relationship.
I have very strong feelings for her, and I would be devastated if we broke up, but it is very difficult for me to continue like this. What can I do?
– Exclusive or Not?
Dear Exclusive: If you two are exclusively dating, moving forward you would naturally want to introduce one another to your friends on both sides. You don’t seem to have met your lady friend’s gentleman caller, but this would be a good first step.
If your girlfriend is reluctant or refuses to introduce you to her friend, then it would seem that theirs is the exclusive relationship. In this context, “exclusive” means that of the three of you, you are the excluded one.
Dear Amy: “Stomach in Knots” was a very concerned grandmother who saw her grandchild essentially being force-fed by the child’s parents.
Amy, there is an epidemic of eating disorders in this country (on both ends of the spectrum), and this is one reason why!
– Upset
Dear Upset: I did not interpret this as “force-feeding,” but as young parents going through what I believe is a typical “clean your plate” phase with a toddler.
Your concerns are completely valid, and so I certainly hope I’m read this right.
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