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Dear C: Nobody likes to have their faults and failings pointed out to them, especially when it is framed as you “pointing out all that she was doing wrong.”
It seems that the distance has helped to stabilize the situation, which is a good thing.
Intervention is laudable and necessary if you are trying to protect someone.
Otherwise – unless you are asked to weigh in or help, you should probably stand down.
Yes, I do think you should stay in contact with this in-law. Don’t rehash everything, but do stay in touch – unless she asks you not to.
Dear Amy: I could not believe your terrible response to “Upset Husband,” who was lucky enough to have in-laws who wanted to give their daughter money for a house!
He should be grateful, rather than insulted!
– Unhappy
Dear Unhappy: Many readers advised that this man should essentially take the money and run, but these parents seemed eager to control the couple through their largesse, and I shared the husband’s concern.
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