Ask Amy: A night out could lead to July Fourth fireworks
If your fiancé wants to attend this Fourth of July party, then he should! His choice not to let what happened control him is a good one.
Does he want you to confront Janet? If so, then go for it, and enjoy the fireworks.
Your fiancé might declare his own independence on Independence Day by addressing this violation, himself. If so, he should be prepared for the typical response from perpetrators: Denial, deflection, diminishing the behavior, and possibly even blaming him for somehow inviting it – which, as everyone knows, he did not do.
Dear Amy: I am one of three daughters-in-law. Ever since the other daughters-in-law came into the family there have been many problems. They all live in our in-laws’ house. (I don’t.)
One particular daughter-in-law constantly fights with her husband and disrespects his parents.
She is now living with her own parents since her last fight, six months ago.
I tried to help, but by pointing out all that she was doing wrong, I think that I have actually made matters worse.
Her behavior toward family members seems to have improved, although she has not apologized to them. Now she’s being negative toward me. I am disappointed that she did not receive my advice in a positive way.
Should I continue to try to reach out?
– C
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