Ask Amy: Forgiveness bids go to the shredder
If we want to go to our favorite greasy spoon because of the specialty there (Wednesday is pot roast day), Annie will say: “I know what sounds good, let’s go to … Chez Louis” – usually a place that serves limited menus and elite cuisine.
This is fine for one meal, but this happens throughout our visit, and we aren’t even staying at her house.
Sometimes, you just want a burger or a hometown pizza – not a filet, poached salmon, or escargot, you know?
How do we avoid these conflicts – short of not informing her that we are in town?
– Stu in Baltimore
Dear Stu: This isn’t about cuisine. This is about you simply being able to assert your own wishes when someone else asserts theirs.
It is your visit! You have the right to eat wherever you want to eat!
Here are some words to try out: “We could eat ‘fancy’ one night, but we’re excited to revisit our favorite comfort foods the rest of the time.”
Dear Amy: I was completely stunned by your response to “Charlie” who had old photos of his ex-wife in an album.
If his current wife of many years is bothered by these photos, then he should get rid of them! I cannot believe you actually suggested sending them to the ex. That would just create more drama!
– Stunned
Dear Stunned: The response to my answer was a universal NO!
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