Ask Amy: Forgiveness bids go to the shredder
Dear Completed: I appreciate your take on this.
I believe that the experience and isolation of the pandemic – as well as the simple march of time – has caused a lot of people to reflect on their choices.
You don’t say how these women expressed themselves, but these entreaties seem more like demands. (I also think it’s possible that Ms. Wine and Crafting is working one of the 12-steps.)
In my experience, the fullest form of forgiveness is arrived at privately, and not as the response to a request or a demand.
I completely understand your reaction here, but I do think you owe these people your gratitude: their out-of-the-blue bids for forgiveness have given you closure, as well as the final word.
Dear Amy: My husband and I were transferred from the Midwest to the East Coast 10 years ago.
We have marvelous world-class food options where we live, and we are grateful for that benefit of living here.
When we go back home to the Midwest, there are certain comfort foods carried by mom-and-pop restaurants and carry-outs that we miss.
Sometimes, it’s a dive, other times it’s a chain restaurant that we don’t have.
The problem is our friend “Annie” inserts herself into our plans and always insists that we dine at the expensive places where she would rather go.
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