Ask Amy: DNA results might prove a relief for daughter
(It’s weird how you change from 18 to 24).
We started going to consultations, found a doctor we loved, and got a credit card just to pay for the procedure.
Last night, he admitted to me that he never wanted to have another baby, and that he was just going through the motions to make me happy.
He said he does not want to raise another baby in his 40s.
I am heartbroken and I just want to move on and stop crying over a child I never had.
Your advice?
– Childless NOT by Choice
Dear Childless: The choice to have a vasectomy is a pretty solid indicator that your husband had made up his mind about not fathering more children; you obviously discussed this before marrying, and it sounds as if he has done his best to be honest with you.
However, you were still a teenager when you and he married, and he – as the far older person – should have anticipated that you would continue to mature and change.
This is the most important issue you will face as a couple, and whatever choice you make will affect the rest of your lives in a primary and deeply important way.
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