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– Unsure

Dear Unsure: You convey a solid realization that your boyfriend has the right to do what he wishes with his own body. You can, however, weigh in.

Tattoos are privately chosen but publicly viewed. Let's imagine what it would be like if you didn't say anything in advance and your boyfriend's half-sleeve did repulse you.

You: "I really hate your ink.'' He: "Gee, do you think you might have mentioned this before I spent hours under the gun?''

You can say, "I'm not a huge fan of lots of tattoos. But I am a huge fan of yours. I'm not sure how I'll react to all of your new ink, but if it's what you really want, I'll do my best to embrace it.'' [August 2012]

Dear Amy: Future tattooers: Before you cover yourself with meaningful “artwork,” go visit a senior center. Take a long look at their once-firm flesh, and imagine it covered in unrecognizable ink. – Susan


Dear Susan: My awesome Uncle Harvey used to show me the battleship he’d had tattooed on his forearm during his time in the Merchant Marines. By the age of 80, that ship had definitely sailed. [September 2012]


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