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Ask Amy: ‘Best of’ column gets major ink

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: Although my husband and I enjoyed the letter from “Madison,” we both agree that your advice missed the mark.

You suggested that Madison be “completely upfront” with her friends – OK, good start – then you counseled her to weasel out and blame her grandparents – the old fogies. Yikes! Young people who have “multiple large tattoos on their arms, chest and back” in all probability don’t care what their own grandparents think, let alone someone else’s. Stating as certainty that the bride’s grandparents “will be freaked out” by her friends’ body ink is disingenuous.

The grandparents are not making the coverup request; the bride is. She needs to own up to her preference and not hide behind the specter of granny’s aesthetic disapproval.

– Robyn & Mark

Dear Robin & Mark: “Madison” did worry what her grandparents would think of her tattooed bridesmaids, but you are right – her first concern was her own dislike of “ink,” and she should not blame the fogies. [June 2012]

DEAR AMY: Tattoos don't repulse me, but I don't like them.


My long-term boyfriend has a few tattoos, all of which have special meaning to him.

Now he has decided to get a half-sleeve of tattoos. I don't particularly want his arms to be covered in artwork, but I know there's nothing I can do about it.

I haven't told him that I'd rather him not get more tattoos. I know it's his body and he can do what he desires with it, but I can't help but think that this will spiral out of control.

I don't want to date a guy who is covered in tattoos. Should I tell him? And if so, what should I say to make sure he knows I'm not forcing anything?


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