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Ask Amy: Distanced family visit causes heartache

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Pro-Vax: You let your wife prohibit you from being in close proximity to your mother. Yes, it seems that she is making the rules for both of you, but altering those rules when it suits her.

Even though you frame your wife’s no-contact rule as intending to protect the two of you (mainly her), close contact with your unvaccinated mother and the people in her care – as well as her unvaccinated family members — could possibly place them at risk.

The CDC states that in July, “new data began to emerge that the Delta variant was more infectious and was leading to increased transmissibility when compared with other variants, even in some vaccinated individuals.”

“Some data suggest the Delta variant might cause more severe illness than previous variants in unvaccinated people. In two different studies from Canada and Scotland, patients infected with the Delta variant were more likely to be hospitalized than patients infected with Alpha or the original virus that causes COVID-19. Even so, the vast majority of hospitalization and death caused by COVID-19 are in unvaccinated people.”

This information is frequently updated; always check (search for “Delta variant”) for the latest recommendations.

This does not speak to your wife’s treatment of you, which has hurt you. I agree that her lack of compassion is alarming, but I hope you understand that, for now, you likely did the right thing for your mother and those in her care by maintaining distance.


Dear Amy: I have a problem that really bothers me.

I had a twin sister who died last year during the pandemic. We were very close.

My problem is that she was in a nursing home and, of course, she couldn't have visitors.

She died when she was alone, and that hurts me so much.


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